A meme circulated in March 2020 of fixing another woman’s crown without telling the world it was crooked. Along with the meme came a challenge to tag a friend who exemplifies this spirit. Women supporting women are so important in our circles and as a community and women in our society.
Receiving The Crown
Thank you to Nilakshi, in Merakimusings, for including me in this nomination. I am honored to receive this award and grateful that she had me on her list of women to pass it around.
Knowing Our Strengths And Weaknesses
I believe that every day is an opportunity for us to celebrate women by merely supporting one another. Learning to appreciate other women’s successes and cheering them on in whatever accomplishment they achieve. Focusing on our strengths and knowing our weaknesses is a great thing to do. Our strengths might be another one’s weakness, and our weaknesses might be someone else’s strengths.
Have you noticed that we are not created the same? Why? Because through the differences, we learn how to communicate and collaborate with others.
Pass That Crown
It’s not always about the crown, trophies, and or any medals you gather; it’s about what you did to earn them. Even if you don’t win a crown, you win one for yourself if you encourage someone else and make her smile.
I experienced giving my crown when I was ten years old. I was one of the Valentina representatives in our classroom. On Valentines Day, our school celebrates and gathers all the class representatives for Valentina and Valentino. We are given a heart-shape with a number inside. For some reason, I hinted that I had a chance to be crowned on that day. I asked my neighbor to switch numbers with me. A second later, my number was called. I told my friend to accept the reward that it is ok with me. She has crowned Miss Valentine on that day. It was my crown given to her. It was our little secret, and we promised not to tell anyone so that her win would not be invalided.
Only my sister who knows about it and the sister of that neighbor friend. Every time they passed by my cousin’s house where we lived at that time, they always gave me a big smile, a thank you that only the two of us understood. It was lovely.
Celebrate It Together
Instead of getting silent and being jealous of somebody’s success, try to celebrate it with them, and you will notice how fun and more enjoyable it is.
How To Compete And Maintain The Friendship?
I should say when you love yourself, know your strengths and weaknesses; you’ll be less disappointed when your friend is being picked and given the award that might be yours.
I witnessed the conversation of two friends when they were in high school. The first student was a true leader who took risks to lead the whole class to be heard. The other student was the second in line. The teachers voted for the second one as they were upset with the first one’s strong leadership skills.
These two friends had a heart-to-heart conversation, and the one who got the medal said to her friend, “This is supposed to be yours, not mine. You deserved this more than I did.” Her friend replied. “They all voted for you, and you have your strengths, too. I look at you as a great leader, so take the medal; it’s yours.”
It was really so sweet to hear them cry together as they were staring at that medal. The girl didn’t have that medal for her collection, but the friends kept their friendship.
Getting A Surprise
Sometimes when you give others a chance to succeed, you are surprised with a better award you didn’t expect to have.
When my daughter arrived at the National American Miss contest, she really wanted to be part of the Artist Award Competition, but when we went to the table, they didn’t have any of those materials left. All were taken. I told Keira to give a chance to others. There’s always an opportunity to get an artist award.
I’m glad she listened and didn’t have a tantrum. To our surprise, they gave a better award, Promoting Friendship and Sportsmanship. Even if she didn’t win other trophies, it doesn’t really matter to me on that day. Promoting Friendship and Sportsmanship is the best award of all.
Why did I say that? Because I need to teach my child to learn how to support another child and cheer them on.
We, adult women, should be doing this and be role models for our children. When we support one another, our kids notice it. We should teach our children so the next generation is more supportive and less competitive. And, if you want to learn how to treat other children as your own, here is my article “How To Be A Mother To Every Kid You Stumble Across?”.
PASSING THE HONOR
Now it’s my turn to pass this honor to some amazing women who inspire me daily and motivate me to become the best version of myself. Here how’s the award works:
- Thank the person who nominated you and link to her blog.
- Copy and paste these rules to your post, and please include a link to the Fix Her Crown Award Post.
- Post three photos of just yourself and write a short caption beneath each about why you chose that photo.
- Nominate seven women for the Fix Her Crown Award. Women who lend a helping hand. To the woman whose crown seems too heavy, who appreciate the sister who dares to be her glorious self. Who raise strong young women, who smile at the sister journeying alone and walk alongside her for a time, who stand with the sister whose crown has been knocked off her head time after time, and women who shine as their own beautifully unique selves.
- Link to the blogs of the seven nominees.
My Nominees Are
The eight women listed below are not as many as deserve this award, but I do this list knowing they will pass it to others.
These bloggers are spreading awareness, positivity, wisdom, and inspiration, making the world a wonderful place with their light. They are whole-heartedly committed to sharing their knowledge and supporting other women with their work. I highly recommend you visit their blogs. You will love it. This list is in no particular order.
- Kara in Peacoat Travels
- Jane in Winds Of Jane
- Sheryl in A Chronic Voice
- Chloe in Nyxie’s Nook
- Julie in Julie Ann Rachelle
- Marianna in European Slice Of Life
- Alecia in Leisure Lambie
- Swati at Simply Beautiful B
Share the Love
If you’ve been nominated, please spread the recognition and love by nominating the women you admire. And, if you’ve come to this page without being nominated, you can join in! Follow the rules listed above for this Fix Your Crown Award and select the women who inspire you. Let’s shift the dynamic and energize women’s tradition of supporting women and pass the love down to the next generation.
Lindsay
Really important points. It’s so important that we encourage and support each other. Thanks for this great post!
April
You are welcome!
Marissa
Hey April! Love your content! It’s so important to focus on supporting each other, not competing! Love your ideas!
April
Thank you, Marisa.
Lori
I’ve been very fortunate to have an amazing group of friends who is very supportive of each other and keeps the drama to a minimum. Women friends are vital to health and happiness, and we should all want the best for each other. Boosting another woman up boosts all of us up!
April
So true! Thanks for reading, Lori, and I wish we all know this.
Cindy Mailhot
What a great post. Anytime we can support someone else it boosts them and us-it’s a win-win!
Kristin
This is a great idea! Women need to SUPPORT each other and celebrate each other’s strengths–NOT compete with one another. There are enough honors to go around, and we each have our niche where we can shine.
April
So true! We all have our own shining star!
Brianna
This is a great post! Women should always empower eachother. Thank you!
Megan
This is so cool and a great way to support each other! It really is more fun to support rather than be jealous.
April
Yes, supporting each other is the way to go.
Helen's Journey
Lovely idea. Really enjoyed ready all your examples and stories. Congrats on the crown! Helen 🙂
Sydney Delong
What a sweet way of recognizing the strong women in the world! There is too much negativity, and women need to band together and support each other!
Erin
Congratulations on your nomination! Women encouraging other women is so very edifying to the soul!
April
Thank you, Erin and it is very important.
Debbie
So wonderful to teach this at an early age!
Tiffany Smith
I love the idea behind this! Congrats on spreading the love around!
Lisa Manderino
Friendship is so important. We all need kindness and a chance to succeed!
Sabrina DeWalt
I have never understood why women seem to undercut each other. I agree the world would be a much better place if we all gave a boost to each other instead.
Melissa Jones
What a fantastic reminder of what we all should be doing!
Magan
What a beautiful thing to be a part of! Congratulations on your nomination! And thank you for sharing. Women supporting women is something I can always get behind!
Ayesha Siddiqui
Congratulations on the honor – you were definitely deserving of it. I love the concept of women celebrating women; and especially your encouragements of being strong/confident and putting others first.
Chelsea
I totally agree with you that so often we become jealous instead of supportive. Women are so powerful when we stick together!
Michele Vadnais
I love that you are teaching your children as such a young age to be supportive and encouraging to others. It’s a lesson many never learned I’m afraid. Nice post!
Suzan | It's My Sustainable Life
So important for women to support one another!
Alyssa
Great post, I love how the blogging community is so supportive!
April
I do agree.
Erica Pittenger
Yes! Absolutely! Why do some women think everything is a competition? Build each other up! Well written!!
April
Thank you!
Barbara
Yes, we must encourage and support one another daily!
Lori
Thanks for this great article. I think it is important to be happy for others when they have success. That unfortunately is not always so easy for some. I love to hear what others are doing. We are all on this journey called life and it is so much better to support each other as we make our ways. We all have something to offer.
April
So true! We all have something that we are good at that we need to share with each other.
Cindy Moore
Well this is beautiful and gave my heart much joy. This is the award I created back in February and I love that it is still circulating and women are still supporting each other. That link goes to my blog, Cindy Goes Beyond, and the post I created for the award. I love it! Thank you for sharing your stories and for nominating other women.
April
Yes and thanks for creating this one.
Lisa S
Great points! Supporting each other is key!!
Marianne
Such an important message! Sometimes we have to put aside our own feelings and celebrate another persons success! It really makes my heart heavy when I see women being catty with one another instead of lifting each other up!
April
Same:)
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